This is the second Relationship Inner Game Experience episode. In this episode I’ll be discussing the big picture for finding love and happiness in dating and relationships.
In this episode we discuss:
[1:00] How to Find Love
[13:11] Why are connection and attraction not enough for a relationship?
[20:53] When is it time to give up on someone?
To understand the process of finding lasting love, you have to take a step back BEFORE most people start the process of dating or relationships. Before you ever get involved with someone, you need to first understand exactly what it is you’re looking for in a partner or a relationship.
Stop and think about what you want and what you don’t want. Get really specific. Most people just have a vague notion of “I want someone who makes me feel good.” But what does that mean? What does it mean in real, concrete terms?
After that, you can start dating. Evaluate the people that you meet along the way and see how they measure up to your standards that you’ve set for yourself.
Remember, that you cannot actually change anyone. You have to accept them 100% as the person that they are. If you don’t want to be in a relationship with that person the way that they are right now, then you need to stop dating them unless you like lots of drama and frustration.
And then, once you are in a relationship with someone, you need to be 100% “in” the relationship. Don’t make the mistake of being halfway in and halfway out of the relationship, that a lot of people make. This will only result in fighting, arguing, and wishy-washy behavior as you remain afraid to commit 100%.